Monday, November 29, 2010


A friend, whom I feel so fortunate to have in my life, taught me about Dharma.

Dharma is our unique gift. No other person possesses this talent, or more accurately our expression of it. Furthermore the law of giving and receiving -Karma- means by giving ourselves, giving our gift, with pure intention, brings about our ultimate happiness.

Deepak Chopra describes it as, "Dharma implies more than seeking work that we love, it implies our unique destiny, our place in the cosmic plan. It implies a shift in consciousness that begins when we align ourselves with our highest vision, and then become the manifestation of that vision."

It is of the highest importance to seek and fulfil this purpose. However in order for Dharma to be expressed as it should be, there are many lessons that must first be learnt. So as we are today, is exactly as we are supposed to be. We learn now what will enable us to overcome challenges in the future. This can be a long, painful journey as some truth can hurt. It can also be a simple, pleasant journey - this is our own decision!

As the Christmas season approaches and giving and receiving is all around us. I hope that everyone receives the gift of consciousness, whatever that may be to the individual and gives the gift of love with pure intention. I hope that Dharma reveals itself to each individual and that everyone has the courage and freedom to follow their own destiny.

Love J x


  1. What do you mean, "This is our own decision" sometimes things are hard and its not our decision to make it that way??

  2. Hello, thank you for your question.

    What I think, and this is my opinion only, is that whether or not things are hard comes from each individuals perception of the situation. Asking "what can I learn from this?" rather than "why does this happen to me?" results in a very different answer and ultimately shifts your perception.

    Sometimes we dont see the lesson we are supposed to learn, and therefore we have to learn it over and over, and the universe may need to make a big (painful) statement in order for us to finally take note. The fact that our eyes are not open to the lesson in the first place is due to our own internal perception of how things are meant to be and therefore it is our own decision, subconscious or not.

    I hope this helps.

    J x

  3. I have really enjoyed some of your posts, but disappointed here. This one has such a patronising tone, and is clearly written by someone who has never suffered real or prolonged hardship.

    Bad things happen to good people. It's not because of "Dharma", or because you weren't paying enough attention and didn't learn your lesson the first time. It just happens. Sure, look on the bright side, be optimistic, that's great. But to breezily say " the pain is your decision! Learn your lesson!" is naive and dismissive of people who are going through genuine trauma.

  4. Hello, thank you for your feedback, my intention was not, and never will be, to patronise, only to share something that I have learnt.

    I am glad that it has offered an alternative view point to yours, just because our perceptions differ doesn't make either wrong or right. It just is as it is. :)

    I agree that unfortunately bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people, at times in my life I have felt the victim, I have felt helpless and I have felt that bad things are happening to me, I chose to feel this way. My ultimate freedom is to choose how I feel and I have been taught through yoga and meditation that acting out my emotions (anger, resentment, frustration) rather than witnessing them will do me harm. It's not a perfect science, nothing is. What I am referring to is allowing space between myself and the emotion to see the situation for what it is.

    For what it is worth I have experienced horrific loss of loved ones, some horrible and painful suffering and malicious intent from the hands of others. At the time I felt lost but now I am able to look back and genuinely be happy that those times were given to me because the person I am today is a credit to them.

    I hope that this reconciles your disappointment.

    J x

  5. Deepak Chopra talks a lot about Karma and Dharma in his book 'The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success'... Great book! x x x

  6. While we are all putting our 2c in. I think this post is great, what you are talking about it that we all have a life purpose. I dont see this patronising at all, thank you for sharing, please keep doing so. x

  7. Isn't it interesting how different words resonate with different people. I could really relate to this post Jen. I just got back from a budhist temple and am reading a book called Living Dharma, so it was great to have a few more details.

    I love the way you write. An easy and informative read. x